DEAR DEIDRE: MY partner has been making a play for my daughter behind my back, but says I’m the one with the filthy mind.
He has hugged her from behind, pressing his body against her, given her “goodnight neck nibbles” and bought her expensive jewellery.
She is deeply uncomfortable with his attention and has been racked with worry about how to tell me.
The final straw came when he “accidentally” dropped his towel in front of her and made eyes at her.
I am 49 and my partner is 51. We have been together for 11 years.
My daughter is 29 and moved back in with us recently after splitting up with her boyfriend.
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She tried to refuse the expensive necklace he bought her, but he said it was only an early birthday present to cheer her up.
But then he told her to keep it a secret from me.
He has been talking to her in a sexually inappropriate way, asking if her boyfriend kept her sexually satisfied and talking about his own “insatiable libido”.
When I noticed my daughter would leave the room whenever my boyfriend came in, I sat her down and demanded to know what was going on.
She really didn’t want to talk but I dragged the truth out of her.
When I confronted him, he erupted and accused me of being twisted and my daughter of lying.
He stormed out to live with his parents and I’ve had little contact with him apart from a weekend away together to try to patch things up.
He admits his actions may have been “misinterpreted” but he can’t give a proper explanation.
My daughter says she will leave if he comes back. I don’t know what to do.
DEIDRE SAYS: What an awful position for your partner to put your daughter in.
And how upsetting it is to be let down by someone you love.
You will of course feel confused and stressed.Until your boyfriend can at the very least explain himself to you I’m afraid there is no way you can trust him.
But you risk losing your daughter if you continue this relationship. Is that a price worth paying?
You might find another partner but she can never find another mum.
You may want to talk it through with Rape Crisis who can give advice on unwanted sexual attention (rapecrisis.org.uk, 0808 500 2222).
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